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Savor the Next “You”


We’ve all got our lit­tle nuggets of wis­dom and encour­age­ment, how­ever, when I read the lat­est issue of MensFit­ness Mag­a­zine (cover to cover as always), Roy S. Johnson’s Editor’s Note, if you will, really put a spring in my step, a fire under my ass, and added a lit­tle umph in how I see the world.

MensFitness Thomas Jane Cover

Here is part of it — take some­thing from it:

Get excited about where life is tak­ing you, through the incre­men­tal gains you make every day-in your career, in your rela­tion­ship, and in the gym. You love work­ing out because it’s going to make you look and feel bet­ter. You’re smarter than you’ve ever been, and you’re prob­a­bly eat­ing bet­ter than you did years ago. You’re going to be stronger, fit­ter, and health­ier, even if you think you don’t look as good as you once did.

For­get that guy. He got lucky, maybe ben­e­fited from being at the right end of the gene pool. The guy you’re going to be will be even bet­ter, no luck involved.

Tackle today with the zeal you dis­play in your work­outs. Imag­ine if you pushed as hard at work as you did on that last rep of dur­ing that last mile on the treadmill.

Imag­ine if you were as metic­u­lous about your career as you are about your regimin, which you chron­i­cle and track like a mad scientist.

Imag­ine if you were as curi­ous and dili­gent in your rela­tion­ship as you are about the food you eat.
Yes, the old job was great. The old girl­friend was hot. Sure, you were once the hottest hunk on the beach.

But if you attack today with the enthu­si­asm, pas­sion, and com­mit­ment, those old yous-as cool as they were-will quake in the shadow of the you you’ll surely become.

This is the out­come I invi­sion for this blog and what­ever it morphs into. Become the bet­ter and best ver­sions of your­self in every facet of life: my wish to you…whoever you are.

You can fol­low Roy S. John­son on Twit­ter here. He’s also got a sports blog, Ballers, Gamers, and Scoundrels.

Quotable | Churchill



“Man will occa­sion­ally stum­ble over the truth, but most times he will pick him­self up and carry on.”

Win­ston Churchill

Be That Guy…

Ask any woman around what her biggest com­plaint is about men and more than likely she’ll give you some vari­a­tion of “there aren’t any real men left.”  What they see are a bunch of kids walk­ing around in men’s bod­ies.  But deep down, they’re look­ing for a man who will take care of them — a man who knows how to treat his lady.  They want a man who can take ini­tia­tive in a rela­tion­ship and be will­ing to…commit.

Sadly, nowa­days, these qual­i­ties in men are slim to none.  Have guys for­got­ten the art of romance and the respon­si­bil­i­ties that go along with being in love?  Most guys today want the ben­e­fits of a rela­tion­ship with­out any of the responsibilities.

Rela­tion­ships should still involve affec­tion­ate court­ing, romance, and always a lit­tle mys­tery.  Yeah yeah yeah — old fash­ioned — I get it, but with all that plagues the mod­ern rela­tion­ships, may­haps we should look to our gen­tle­manly fore­fa­thers.  Before I turn into a com­plete cheese­ball — I remem­ber read­ing the let­ters and hear­ing the sto­ries of my grand­par­ents that revealed how happy they were together and how much affec­tion they had for one another (save the snor­ing in the lat­ter years of my grand­fa­thers life which my grand­mother would never let him live down).  So per­haps we, too, can expe­ri­ence this rush of adren­a­line that comes with being that guy — with­out being THAT guy.

Here are a few roman­tic (and inex­pen­sive) things you can do to woo your lover and keep the fire going.

Love Note, The Casual Gent

  1. The Post-It Note: This is by far the eas­i­est and the most bang for your buck, hands down.  Leave sweet notes on Post-Its around the house in incon­spic­u­ous places; in a drawer, in a daily plan­ner, in the mailbox…pretty much any­where you know your love will visit through­out the day.
  2. A Mixed Tape: Maybe not an actual cas­sette — but you get the point.  One of the best gifts I ever received was a birth­day CD with some of my favorite songs.  I still have it and lis­ten to it — and that was years ago.
  3. Take a Day Trip: This one takes a lit­tle more plan­ning but can def­i­nitely lead to a closer bond and great mem­o­ries.  Pick a des­ti­na­tion an hour or so away and make a day out of it.  Be the tourists that every­one loves.  Take your cam­era.  Take some cash.  And live for the day.
  4. Flower Deliv­ery: Now — I know you’re think­ing “thats not very orig­i­nal.”  And, tra­di­tion­ally, its not.  The trick is to be the deliv­ery guy.  Go get some amaz­ing flow­ers, or if you’re so skilled, make your own bou­quet, dress in some stan­dard deliv­ery garb and deliver the flow­ers your­self to the office.

Try these out and leave com­ments on the ways you woo your roman­tic interest…

Gavin Castleton | Listen

Ran­dom Google searches can yield some pretty great finds.  And today was one of those lucky days.  I was actu­ally googling around for some web design ideas for a site I’m work­ing on and *BAM* I was smacked in the head with a gem by the name of Gavin Castleton.

Why have I not heard him before?  Who knows?!? But I’m sure glad I found him.  I played around on his site for a hot minute until I found the page where I could lis­ten to his lat­est album, HOME, which was released in April of 2009.

This is where I fell…

Gavin Castleton

HOME car­ries you on a focused jour­ney of love (and the foot­print it leaves when it steps on your face) through the eyes of a man, a woman, two lady­bugs, and an army of corpses. Not only is the con­cept left-of-center, the album itself is unique in its func­tion. Freshly arisen from the dev­as­ta­tion of a six-year rela­tion­ship, Gavin set out to design an album that would both doc­u­ment his heal­ing process and deliver com­fort to lis­ten­ers to the heartbroken.

In what close friends described as “a mon­u­men­tal error in judg­ment,” Gavin enlisted the help of his depart­ing lover to help write the story. The process became so heart-wrenching that he aban­doned the house they had shared, and for five months (until his final mas­ter­ing date) he and his faith­ful dog slept on couches, floors, and car seats, record­ing musi­cians all over New England.

The result is HOME, a 14-song nar­ra­tive that fol­lows his rela­tion­ship from the coffee-shop flir­ta­tion begin­ning to the mauled-by-zombies-while-his girlfriend-leaves-in-a-helicopter-with-some-army-dude end.

“For the last few years I’ve been approach­ing my songs as parts of a big­ger com­po­si­tion. While the rest of the world is tak­ing things in smaller and smaller doses, I find myself mak­ing big­ger and big­ger pieces. I don’t know if I’m respond­ing to the shrink­ing aver­age atten­tion span, or run­ning from it,” says Castleton.

Song by song the line between doc­u­men­tary and fan­tasy becomes blurred, as you find your­self careen­ing through a dynamic plot that unfolds like a clas­sic hor­ror movie. The album is sequenced in two halves: the first depicts Castle­ton and his young lover falling deeply in love, and the sec­ond, in which said lovers are stalked inces­santly by a grow­ing pop­u­la­tion of flesh-eating zom­bies, is the story of falling out of love.

What does love sound like? Tracks like “Cof­fee­locks” and “Warpaint” sug­gest Philip Glass, Brian Wil­son, Postal Ser­vice, and Pink Floyd. When flir­ta­tion gives way to pas­sion, songs like “Sugar on the Sheets” and “Stampete” summon the sounds of D’Angelo, Prince, and Por­tishead as Castle­ton is joined by the ver­sa­tile voice of Lau­ren Coleman.

But when “The Onslaught” begins, rela­tion­ship decay is pos­i­tively pal­pa­ble with Castle­ton flip­ping the sound­track into some­thing from the Goblin/King Crim­son school of prog. Holed up in an aban­doned gro­cery store sur­rounded by zom­bies, the rela­tion­ship begins to devour itself. The apoc­a­lyp­tic shades of Mas­sive Attack, Brian Eno, and God­speed You Black Emperor tint tracks like “The Wall Starts to Give” and “Unpar­al­lel Rab­bits.” Locked in a stor­age closet with his lover safe in the arms of an “army dude,” Castle­ton deliv­ers an Oscar-worthy per­for­mance in his sui­cide march, “Oregon.”

To fully appre­ci­ate why he is then mirac­u­lously res­ur­rected by a pair of singing lady­bugs, you would want to take a look at his blog, where Castle­ton has been weav­ing addi­tional nar­ra­tives around and through the album (and his other recent works) since he began the pro­duc­tion two years ago. The tiny spirit guides beg him to try a hap­pier end­ing for the album, and he does, in the lush and lin­ear next-to-last track, “The Human Torch.”

But things are never so pic­ture per­fect is the warn­ing in the final song “Cred­its,” in which Gavin’s patented self-awareness is tran­scended even fur­ther, break­ing the fourth wall a la Char­lie Kauf­man and refer­ring to the album itself, “Is this me hold­ing on or let­ting go?”

Despite the uncon­ven­tion­ally wide scope of Home, Castle­ton insists it is a very accu­rate depic­tion of a rough breakup: “When you fall in love, is it not a lit­tle bit like a musi­cal? When your heart breaks, is it not a lit­tle bit like a hor­ror movie?”

Here’s a lit­tle ditty to see more of Gavin’s pure genius.

“Home is a bizarrely intrigu­ing prog-pop album that only works because of Castleton’s spec­tac­u­lar voice. If you want to be chal­lenged while still enjoy­ing pop songs, this disc’s the way to go.“
- Alter­na­tive Press

“Castle­ton has a tremen­dous gift for fash­ion­ing grand cin­e­matic songs that swell with ambi­tious prose”
- Port­land Mercury

Fol­low Gavin Castle­ton on Twit­ter @gavincastleton

Read his blog at gavincastleton.blogspot.com

Buy his music on iTunes

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